Olivia Rowlatt

Sex and Relationship Therapist (COSRT Accredited)

More about Asperger relationship

Do you have an Asperger relationship? Want to know more?

This youtube video describes symptoms of Asperger’s syndrome.

If you or your partner have Asperger’s you may find communication more challenging.

There are ways to improve your communication.

People with Asperger’s often withdraw. Spending long periods in solitary activities is common. They may not participate in family life.

The non-Asperger’s partner can suffer from emotion deprivation and loneliness.

People with Asperger’s do care about other people’s feelings. They struggle to read the subtle signs of different emotional states. Asperger’s varies enormously from person to person. Some do not feel adversely affected by Asperger’s and value the gifts it brings.

How can couple counselling help an Asperger relationship?

  • It provides a forum for both people to explain what they want from the relationship.
  • The meaning and impact of Asperger’s on the relationship can be explored.
  • New strategies for communicating can be developed to meet your needs.

Sex in an Asperger relationship can be complicated

For some Asperger people sex is an important part of the relationship. For others sex is disconnected from emotional expression.

Sensory sensitivity can affect sex too. During arousal and orgasm the senses are heightened. Sensitivity to touch, especially genital areas can feature. A repulsion to the taste and smell of bodily fluids is not uncommon. This can make sex excruciating and frustrating for someone with Asperger’s.

Couple counselling and sex therapy can help. People on the autistic spectrum are often very creative. They view the world in unique ways. Many significant scientific breakthroughs were by people on the autistic spectrum. Good examples of this are Issac Newton and Albert Einstein.

These factors can cause misunderstandings. Working out how Asperger’s is affecting your sex life can make a difference. Maybe couple counselling and sex therapy can help?

If you are in an Asperger relationship and would like help then contact me for an assessment.