Prioritise your relationship: Life can get busy. Work takes over. Raising a family can be all consuming. There may be elderly parents to look after. Time to spend as a couple can become hard to find.

Make sure your relationship is high on your priority list.

Think about how you want your relationship to be in 5 years. Relationship maintenance is daily small steps. Each step moves towards the relationship you want. Read about Gottman’s ratio.

• Have fun together!
• Communicate: Let your partner know what is going on for you. Make time to talk everyday [a few minutes can go a long way]
• Try to see the good things your partner does.
• Take responsibility for yourself. Do things that make you happy. Spend time with friends.

A relationship requires work and trust. The “key” is for couples to not take each other for granted and get lazy.

Your sex life. There is no one key ingredient; sex is not that simple. However, there are ways to increase your chances for a great sex life. For most of us these include these things. Put energy and thought into your sex life. Talk to your partner about it.

One “key” to a great sex life is variety and creativity. Without a little effort to mix things up, even the most sensational activities become routine and stale. It’s well worth the effort to come up with new ways to express sensuality and sexuality with your partner. This could mean bringing some sex toys into the bedroom. Maybe have sex in a different environment: a luxury hotel, on top of the dining room table, or in the backyard under the moonlight. It could mean watching an erotic video together or role-playing your fantasies.

Psychosexual therapy. It can help to speak to an expert about the difficulties you are going through.