Relationships require people to grow, mature and differentiate.
|Dr David Schnarch talks about relationships as “people-growing machines.”
Relationships force people to ask the question:
Do I belong to you or do I belong to me?
Do you are feel as if you have fallen out of love with your partner? Was sex once great and now it is a disappointment? Schnarch suggests that this is a normal part of the relationship process.
Schnarch and the Nature of Relationships
- Relationships, by their very nature, lead to gridlock and a reduction of passion. This is not the beginning of the end. It is when the relationship starts to get interesting.
- It is overcoming the inherent frustrations of relationships that leads to a deepening of passion and intimacy over time.
- Relationships require individuals to become more self-aware and self-sufficient. This leads to increased ability to see the other clearly.
The following abilities help create a long-term passionate relationship:
- Being able to validate yourself
- Having ways to regulating anxiety
- Avoiding being over-reactive
- Being able to tolerate painful growth
To explore issues with passion and desire in your relationship, if you want a passionate relationship, email or call me on 07927 026 299 or 01225 975 166.