What does the therapist do?
As an active therapist, I engage with you in a process, nurturing and supporting your growth as a couple while respecting both your individual viewpoints. Developing a committed relationship involves developing a stronger sense of self, while growing closer to your partner.
Relationship counselling creates a safe and friendly, welcoming environment in which to unravel the problems that are making life less than wonderful. It helps you to recognize what makes things go wrong, change old patterns, and create the intimate loving relationship you want. Perhaps you don’t know what you want from your relationship.It can take time for solutions to become clear. Counselling
can help you work out what you need and want from your relationship.
Sometimes separation and divorce are the best options. In these situations couple counselling can keep communication channels open and help you find the most amicable way forward.
What happens in relationship counselling?
Relationship counselling starts with a consultation session. This is to identify the issues that you want to focus on, and obstacles that could prevent you from achieving what you want. The consultation session provides an opportunity to see if we think we can work together.
During subsequent sessions, we work together towards achieving your goals using a series of conversations, exercises and techniques.
Relationship counselling may be weekly, fortnightly or less frequent. To increase the benefit of our work together I may set homework to be discussed in the following session. The counselling is reviewed at regular intervals to a
The following are transition points in life, when the couple relationship is in flux and couples are more likely to experience conflict:
- Establishing a new relationship
- Moving in together
- Getting married
- Pregnancy issues
- Having children
- Moving house
- Children leaving home
Reaching a gridlock in your relationship can be a move towards health. It provides the impetus to make the beneficial changes, personally, relationally, and in the wider arena of your life. Don’t give up on your relationship without exploring new possibilities and solutions thoroughly.
I would like to let you know more about relationship counselling. Contact me for a chat to see whether what I do can help in your situation.