Becoming a sexual woman can be exciting, intimidating and terrifying all at the same time. As a sex therapist I’ve worked with lots of women who want help awakening sexuality. Some are single, and some are in relationships. All are looking to be more sexually uninhibited, free and relaxed.

Here are some thoughts about awakening sexuality

Being sexual has to be a decision for you.

You won’t be authentically in it if you decide to be sexual because your partner wants you to.

You can make a choice to learn about your sexuality and have better sex if you choose to do so.

Don’t let someone talk you into it because that’s what they want for you.

You need to have a discussion with yourself about if you are ready to become more sexual.Once you decide it’s for you then go on to the next step.

Being kind and loving to your body

You have only one body. Make the most of it. Almost everyone is dissatisfied with their body in some way. Decide to live the for the moment and treat your body with kindness and compassion today.

• Have a shower or bath and explore each part of your body as you wash it with care.
• Notice what makes you relax and unwind.
• Try foods with different tastes and textures and see what you enjoy.

Being sensual is an important part of being sexual.

Take a mirror and look at your vulva

The outside parts of the female genitals are known collectively as the vulva.

It will be hard for you to know what you want sexually, until you know what is there. The vulva is an important, dynamic part of your body that you cannot easily see. Every woman’s vulva is unique and different.

A hand mirror works best to take a look at your vulva and vagina.

Vulva’s come in all shapes and sizes. Identify your outer lips [labium majus], your inner lips [labium minus] and find your clitoris and vaginal opening. Understand that most orgasms stem from your clitoris so it’s important to find where it is positioned.

Explore your sexual fantasies

Thinking about sex will make you feel more sexual. Reading erotica and watching porn will also put you in the mood for being sexual with yourself.

Learn about awakening sexualtiy

There is link between masturbating and sexual confidence. Some of us were raised to believe and think sex is dirty and girls aren’t supposed to touch themselves. Your body belongs to you. It is fine to give yourself pleasure and masturbate when you want.

You can order a vibrator online and have it sent right to your house. The Beginner’s Guide to Vibrators at Lovehoney is a good place to start.

Try touching, exploring, pleasuring the vulva, clitoris, and the area around the clitoris, with your fingers or a vibrator. Practice masturbating a few times a week. You will begin developing an appetite for being sexual more quickly if you are pleasuring yourself on a regular basis. You will also begin building sexual self confidence as you learn how your body reacts and what feels good to you.

If you are having difficulty awakening sexuality, then sex therapy can help.

Call me on 07927 260 299, or email if you need more information.